FOR THE SPOUSE WHO MISSES 'US'.
Stop feeling like roommates. Start feeling like a couple again.
An 8-week marriage coaching programme to bring back the fun, real conversations and closeness you’ve been missing.
Even if your spouse isn’t ready yet.
You still love the person you married. But life has become more about managing a household than enjoying each other.
And you don’t want the next decade to feel the same.
30-min Reconnection Strategy Call
With Verrill · Spouse needn't attend
FOR THE SPOUSE WHO MISSES 'US'.
Stop feeling like roommates.
Start feeling like a couple again.
An 8-week marriage coaching programme to bring back the fun, real conversations and closeness you’ve been missing.
Even if your spouse isn’t ready yet.
You still love the person you married. But life has become more about managing a household than enjoying each other.
And you don’t want the next decade to feel the same.
30-min Reconnection Strategy Call
With Verrill · Spouse needn't attend
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239 married Singaporeans surveyed
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WHEN LIFE TAKES OVER
Nothing is terribly wrong. You just don’t feel like “us” anymore.
Your marriage works, and from the outside, it probably looks perfectly fine. You still talk every day, although most of your conversations are about the children, work, bills and everything that needs to get done.
And it’s not that you’ve stopped having good moments together. You still laugh and enjoy each other’s company. Those moments just seem fewer and further between.
You thought things might get easier once the children were older. But the sleepless nights became school schedules, tuition, work deadlines and family commitments. Somehow, there’s still so little time left for the two of you.
What makes it harder is that you know your spouse loves you. They’re a good person, and there’s so much about the life you’ve built that you’re grateful for.
But you miss the random conversations, the spontaneous affection and the feeling that your spouse genuinely enjoys being with you.
Sometimes, lying beside the person you married, you realise you’ve spent another day managing life together without really connecting.
And there’s a question you don’t particularly want to ask.
Is this what the next ten years of our marriage are going to look like?
WHY TRYING HARDER HASN'T BEEN ENOUGH
You've tried to get closer. Why does the distance keep coming back?
FROM OUR SURVEY OF
239 MARRIED singaporeans
Many have already tried the usual advice. But that alone doesn’t always bring the closeness back.
And if you’ve tried them too, but still find yourself missing the same closeness, you know how frustrating that can feel.
There’s nothing wrong with those efforts. They matter.
But a good conversation or a lovely evening together doesn’t automatically change how you handle disagreements, respond to pressure or make room for each other during the rest of the week.
The problem isn’t always a lack of effort.
It’s that the patterns creating the distance haven’t changed.
And time alone doesn’t necessarily change those patterns either.
If it did, every couple who’d been married for 30 or 40 years would be closer than ever. But we all know couples who’ve been married for decades who aren’t necessarily any closer than they were years ago.
You can spend another ten years together and still be missing the same things.
PARTNERSHIP & INTIMACY
You can be a great team and still miss feeling close.
Partnership
How we handle life together
Sharing responsibilities
Making decisions together
Working through differences
Having each other’s backs
Building a future together
Intimacy
How we enjoy each other
Friendship and laughter
Conversations beyond logistics
Affection and tenderness
Romance and attraction
Sex and physical intimacy
A great marriage shouldn’t just work.
It should be a joy to be in.
You didn’t get married just to become good at running a household together. You wanted to build a life with someone you love and enjoy being with.
That’s why feeling like a couple again means addressing the patterns that keep creating distance while rebuilding the habits that help you feel close.
THERE'S MORE YOU CAN DO THAN YOU THINK
Your spouse isn't ready. That doesn't mean you're stuck.
Perhaps you’ve thought about getting help before, but your spouse thinks everything is fine. Or maybe they know something is missing too, but don’t feel ready to do anything about it.
And because so many marriage programmes are designed for both spouses to attend, you’ve probably assumed there isn’t much point unless you can convince yours to come along.
It’s a difficult place to be. You miss what you used to have, but now your hopes for things getting better seem to depend on a decision only your spouse can make.
But just because you can’t make your spouse’s choices doesn’t mean you’ve lost your own.
You don’t need your spouse to be ready before you can begin understanding what’s keeping your marriage in the same place, what’s been getting in the way of closeness, and where things could begin changing.
And you don’t have to figure all of that out on your own.
That’s what we’re here to help you with.
Here’s a simple way to picture what can happen when a familiar pattern starts changing.
You can’t control their move. But you can change yours.
Beginning first doesn’t mean accepting the blame or taking responsibility for the entire marriage.
It means recognising that you have more influence than you may have realised, even if your spouse isn’t ready yet.
You don’t have to wait for your spouse to change before you can begin changing the pattern.
A PRACTICAL PATH BACK TO EACH OTHER
Eight weeks to start finding your way back to each other.
From Roommates to Us™ is a small-group marriage coaching programme to help you change the patterns creating distance and begin enjoying each other again.
Your private starting session
Start with a private session with Verrill and a personalised 14-day reconnection plan, so you know where to begin even before the group sessions start.
WHAT BEGINS TO FEEL DIFFERENT
Room to Breathe
Stop ending every day with nothing left for each other. Begin finding room for the fun and closeness you’ve been missing, even when life is busy.
Have Real Conversations
Enjoy talking about more than children and household matters again, while finding a better way through the same frustrating conversations.
In This Together
Feel like husband and wife again, not just two people running a household. More laughter, affection and little moments when you simply enjoy being together.
Real coaching, not just lessons
This isn’t another thing you read or watch and then try to figure out on your own.
You’ll have seven live 90-minute group coaching sessions where you can bring real questions from your marriage, receive guidance and work through what to try next.
And between sessions, you’ll have weekly check-ins and weekday WhatsApp support, so you’re not left figuring things out alone when real life happens.
You’ll also have a guided practice week and learn simple ways to bring back Appreciation, Attention and Affection.
The goal isn’t just to learn about having a better marriage. It’s to begin experiencing one.
30-min Reconnection Strategy Call
With Verrill · Spouse needn't attend
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From the people We've walked with
What changed when one spouse took the first step
Names and identifying details have been changed to protect privacy.
Every marriage has its own story. And often, one spouse knows something needs to change before the other is ready.
Here are three real stories from people we’ve worked with.
Marriage 01
WHEN SHE FELT LIKE SHE WAS DOING EVERYTHING
She was exhausted from managing so much at home, while her husband still seemed to have time for himself.
She needed things to change, but couldn’t make him change.
After she tried a different approach and spoke with her husband, he began taking on more at home and encouraging her to take time for herself.
"I have time off for myself, without planning what to do for the day.
I definitely feel so much better now."
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She had been carrying a great deal at home, and from where she stood, the problem seemed obvious.
What shifted wasn’t about convincing her that the imbalance didn’t matter or asking her to become more tolerant of it.
She became clearer about what she was carrying, what belonged to her, and what she could change in the way she was approaching the situation.
As she changed what she was doing, the conversations between them began to change too.
Marriage 02
WHEN HER HUSBAND WASN'T READY TO GET HELP
She had already moved out and was staying with her mother. Her husband never attended a coaching session.
But she decided to begin anyway.
Before our work together ended, she had moved back home.
"I came swimming in dark waters.
I left seeing that my marriage could be loved to the brim."
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She and her husband had been clashing over ordinary, everyday decisions, and the way they spoke to each other had begun to leave both of them feeling small.
Through our work together, she began to understand that two people could approach things very differently without either person automatically being wrong.
She became clearer about what was hers to own, what wasn’t hers to carry, and what she could begin doing differently.
Her spouse never attended a session, but that didn’t prevent her from beginning.
Marriage 03
WHEN BEGINNING FIRST FELT UNFAIR
She was carrying deep hurt from past choices her husband had made, and what he had done was still his responsibility.
Taking the first step didn’t mean taking the blame.
As she began working through what she’d been carrying, she experienced a tremendous sense of relief. She felt free, and their relationship began feeling different too.
“It felt like it was a load off my heart.
Our relationship is now easier, happier, nicer and simpler.”
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She had spent a long time trying to understand what had happened and why, while carrying hurt over choices that hadn’t been hers.
Our work wasn’t about excusing her husband’s actions, asking her to forget what happened or making her responsible for repairing everything.
It was about helping her work through what she was carrying, without having to take ownership of choices that weren’t hers.
She described feeling free from so much of the emotional weight she’d been carrying.
What her husband had done hadn’t changed, but her experience of herself and the marriage had.
These are three very different marriages, but each shows what can begin changing when one spouse decides to take the first step.
Your spouse may not be ready yet.
That doesn’t mean your marriage has to stay this way for the next ten years.
We've been there too
We were together almost 24/7. And somehow, we still missed each other.
Charlene and I have never quite done things the usual way.
We’ve always been two highly intentional people who know what we want. And when something matters to us, we tend to go all in.
We became a couple on Saturday, looked at wedding rings on Sunday and got engaged on Monday. Girlfriend on Saturday, Fiancée on Monday. I didn’t even get down on one knee, but Char said yes anyway. I think she saw great potential. 😎
We’ve also worked together since 2011. And when I say worked together, I mean going to work together, spending the whole day together and coming home together, only to do it all over again the next day.
Whenever people find out, we almost always get the same reaction.
“How do you guys do that? I cannot imagine working with my spouse.”
We’re both strong-minded, with our own opinions, working styles and ways of doing things. We don’t always agree, and when we disagree, we certainly know it.
Over the years, we’ve had to learn how to navigate those differences, work through disagreements, make decisions and build systems that allow us to function well together.
And we became a pretty good team.
Two strong individuals. One team.
But being such a good team came with an unexpected challenge.
We’d talk about work over lunch, continue talking about work over dinner, and eventually I remember lying in bed one night, realising we were still talking about work.
I remember thinking, “Wow, this really isn’t healthy.”
We were spending practically every day together, but so much of our time had become about getting things done.
And that’s when we realised something important.
We didn’t want to choose between building a life together and enjoying being together.
So we began creating boundaries and routines that allowed us to keep working well together without letting work take over our marriage.
Then Judah arrived after ten years of waiting.
We were overjoyed to finally become parents, but that first year brought a different kind of challenge.
Suddenly, so much of our attention went towards caring for Judah, managing the household and keeping everything running.
We were still a team. We still loved each other.
But once again, we were becoming so focused on managing life together that we began missing each other.
I remember telling Char,
“I feel like I’ve lost my right hand.”
After all those years of spending almost every waking moment together, I never imagined I could still find myself missing my wife.
Looking back, those experiences taught us something we’ve come to believe deeply about marriage.
Being an incredible team doesn’t automatically mean you’re enjoying being a couple.
A great marriage needs both partnership and intimacy. The ability to face life together and the closeness to genuinely enjoy each other along the way.
We want to be each other's best teammate and favourite person through every season.
That’s the marriage we’re continually building, and the kind of marriage we want to help others experience.
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BEYOND THE TWO OF YOU
Stronger marriages build stronger families. Stronger families raise stronger generations.
We care deeply about parenting. But for us, marriage comes before parenting.
Not because children matter less, but precisely because they matter so much.
Years ago, when we were still coaching singles and couples preparing for marriage, we kept hearing versions of the same sentence:
“I don’t want the marriage my parents have.”
They weren’t necessarily saying their parents were terrible people. Many grew up in families where Dad and Mum were still together, working hard and doing their best.
But they remembered what they saw.
For some, the arguments they heard as children were still happening decades later. Even after getting married and having children of their own, they’d visit their parents and see the same familiar patterns playing out.
Years had passed. But the things that were never addressed hadn’t necessarily gone away.
Our children aren’t only learning from how we parent them. They’re also learning from how we treat each other.
They notice how we speak when we disagree, whether we still laugh together, and how we show affection.
They’re already watching.
Since becoming parents, this has become even more personal for us.
There will be many things in Judah’s life that will make us proud. His graduations, his achievements, the things he works hard for and the person he becomes.
And one day, watching him get married will surely be one of the happiest moments of our lives.
But as wonderful as that day will be, the wedding is just one day. The marriage he builds is the life he’ll wake up to for years to come.
And that leaves us with a question we take seriously.
If Judah grew up to have a marriage just like ours, would we be happy for him?
We want to be able to say yes.
The world will have plenty to tell him about love and marriage. But long before that, he’ll already have spent years watching ours.
We don’t need him to see a perfect marriage. We want him to see two people who disagree, work through difficult seasons, face life as a team and still genuinely enjoy being married.
We can’t decide what kind of marriage he’ll build. But we can be intentional about the example he grows up with.
One of the greatest legacies we can leave our children is a marriage that shows them what’s possible.
NOW ACCEPTING APPLICATIONS
January 2027 Founding Cohort
For our first From Roommates to Us™ cohort, we’re offering the complete eight-week coaching programme at a special founding fee.
Limited to 12 founding participants.
We’re keeping this first group small so everyone receives meaningful guidance and support.
Founding Cohort
6 January - 24 February 2027Wednesdays, 7:30 - 9:00 pm SGT
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A private starting session with Verrill
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Your personalised 14-day reconnection plan
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Seven live 90-minute group coaching sessions
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A guided Chinese New Year practice week
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Practical exercises and weekly check-ins
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A midpoint progress review
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Weekday WhatsApp support between sessions
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Your Protect the Marriage™ 30-day plan
With Verrill · Spouse needn't attend
CHOOSE YOUR LEVEL OF SUPPORT
The same eight-week journey, with two ways to be supported.
Both options include the complete From Roommates to Us™ programme, your private starting session and guided support as you begin making changes in your everyday marriage.
The difference is how much additional personal attention you’d like along the way.
Core
For the spouse who wants a personal starting point, the complete eight-week programme and coaching within a small, private group.-
A private starting session with Verrill
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Your personalised 14-day reconnection plan
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Eight weekly 90-minute group coaching sessions
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Practical exercises and weekly check-ins
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A midpoint review
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Weekday WhatsApp support between sessions
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Graduation & Your Protect the Marriage™ 30-day plan
Private Support
For the spouse who wants the complete programme, with more personal attention and private space to work through what's happening in their marriage.-
You’ll receive everything in Core, plus:
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Four private 1:1 sessions with Verrill
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7-day WhatsApp support between sessions
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Replies within 24 hours.
AN HONEST QUESTION
"S$2,000? For marriage?"
We understand why that can feel unusual. Especially when your marriage isn’t in crisis.
Most of us have spent thousands building the life around our marriage. There was the wedding, then the home, children, insurance, holidays, education and everything else that comes with raising a family.
Spending a couple of thousand dollars on a holiday doesn’t feel particularly unusual.
But spending the same amount directly on your marriage does.
Perhaps that’s because, for most of us, the marriage itself has never really had a line item in the budget.
And when things aren’t terribly wrong, it’s easy to tell ourselves we’ll get around to it when life settles down.
But you’ve probably been hoping things would get better for quite some time now.
What you’re investing in isn’t another collection of marriage advice.
It’s eight weeks of personal guidance, coaching and practical support to help you change the habits that keep creating distance and begin rebuilding the connection you’ve been missing.
It’s about making real changes in the marriage you come home to every day.
We spend so much building a life together. Surely the marriage we're building it around deserves some attention too.
Of course, S$2,000 is a significant investment, and there’s still one very reasonable question:
What if I give this my best and nothing actually changes?
That’s why we’ve put a guarantee behind the programme.
OUR COMMITMENT TO YOU
The First Shift Guarantee
If you genuinely give these eight weeks your best and nothing meaningfully changes, we'll refund what you paid.
We believe marriage coaching should lead to more than understanding why things are the way they are.
We want you to begin experiencing something different in your marriage, whether that’s an easier conversation, a familiar pattern you respond to differently, or more moments when you genuinely enjoy being together.
And we’re confident enough in this process to put our money behind it.
Here’s what we ask of you.
Attend all eight sessions, either live or by catching up on the recorded teaching. Complete your weekly check-ins, put what you’re learning into practice and give the programme an honest eight weeks.
We’ll review your progress along the way and look at what’s actually changed.
If you’ve genuinely done all of that and still feel nothing meaningful has changed in how you experience or relate to your spouse, we’ll refund every dollar you’ve paid us.
No programme credits or substitute offers. You’ll get your money back.
We can’t promise how your spouse will respond, but we can stand behind the guidance and support we’re giving you.
You’re taking a chance on your marriage. We’re willing to take the financial risk with you.
BEFORE YOU APPLY
Frequently Asked Questions
1. My spouse thinks our marriage is fine or isn't ready. Can I still join?
Yes. That’s exactly why we designed From Roommates to Us™ for one willing spouse.
Your spouse may genuinely think everything is fine. If they don’t feel anything is missing, they probably don’t see a reason to seek help.
But you’re experiencing the same marriage differently. You’re missing something you once enjoyed together.
And you don’t need your spouse to agree there’s a problem before what you’re experiencing deserves attention.
Yet because so many marriage programmes require both spouses to participate, it’s easy to assume that if yours isn’t ready, your only option is to wait.
But just because you can’t make your spouse’s choices doesn’t mean you’ve lost your own.
That’s why we’ve created a practical, supported way for one willing spouse to begin making a difference, without having to convince the other person to come along first.
Your spouse doesn’t need to attend the programme or your Reconnection Strategy Call.
2. If I'm the one joining, does that mean I'm the problem?
Absolutely not.
If anything, it tells us that you’re someone who’s willing to invest in your marriage, and we respect that.
Being the first person to seek help doesn’t mean you’re the one who caused the problems.
It doesn’t mean your spouse has nothing to work on, or that you’re now responsible for fixing everything.
It simply means you’ve decided that your marriage matters enough to do something about it, even if your spouse isn’t ready yet.
And we’ll help you understand what’s happening between you, where you have influence and what isn’t yours to carry.
Taking ownership isn’t taking the blame. It’s choosing to begin.
3. What if my spouse doesn't change?
No one can force another person to change. And that’s not what we’re teaching you to do.
But think about it.
If both of you keep waiting for the other person to make the first move, who’s actually doing anything differently?
And if neither of you changes anything, why would you expect the same patterns to produce a different experience?
That’s why we believe one willing spouse can begin making a difference.
When you begin changing your part of a familiar pattern, the interaction itself can start changing.
It might mean an old argument no longer plays out the same way, a difficult conversation goes differently, or there’s finally more room to enjoy each other again.
Your spouse still makes their own choices. But their readiness doesn’t have to determine whether you can begin.
You can’t make your spouse change. But you can begin changing what keeps the two of you stuck in the same place.
4. Our marriage isn't that bad. Do we really need this?
You’re right. Your marriage may not be in crisis. And this programme isn’t designed for marriages in crisis.
You may love each other, work well as a team and have built a life you’re proud of. That’s the partnership side of marriage, and it matters.
But what about the intimacy? The laughter, affection, meaningful conversations and feeling that you genuinely enjoy being together?
A marriage can be working well and still be missing something important.
And if you’re reading this, perhaps there’s already something about your marriage you wish were different.
So the question isn’t whether your marriage is bad enough to need help.
It’s whether this is the marriage you want to keep experiencing.
You don’t have to wait for a crisis to start building something better.
5. How much time will this take? What if I miss a session?
We’ve designed this programme for people who are already juggling work, children and everyday responsibilities.
There are seven live 90-minute group coaching sessions across eight weeks, with one guided practice week.
You’ll also complete short weekly check-ins and practical exercises.
Most of what you’ll practise happens within situations you’re already experiencing at home. The goal isn’t to give you another long list of things to do, but to help you approach married life differently.
If you miss a session, we’ll help you catch up on the teaching and relevant materials, while protecting the privacy of other participants’ personal sharing.
6. Do I have to share personal details in the group?
No. You decide how much you’re comfortable sharing.
But there’s something special about being part of a small group like this.
You’ll be surrounded by people who’ve also made an intentional decision to invest in their marriages, just like you.
These are people who believe their marriages are worth giving time and attention to, and who want to build something better.
There’s something encouraging about knowing you’re not the only person who cares deeply about making your marriage better.
Of course, we’ll establish clear expectations around privacy, confidentiality and respect. You’ll never be required to reveal intimate details you’re uncomfortable sharing.
You can still learn from the coaching and other people’s experiences, even if you prefer to keep certain things private.
7. Is this marriage counselling or therapy?
From Roommates to Us™ is practical marriage coaching, not counselling, therapy or crisis intervention.
It’s designed for spouses who want to improve their marriage and are willing to begin practising changes in everyday life.
If your relationship involves abuse, coercion, violence, threats or serious safety concerns, specialist support focused on your safety is more appropriate.
During your Reconnection Strategy Call, we’ll be honest if we believe your situation requires a different kind of help.
8. Do I need to be Christian to join?
No. You don’t need to be a Christian to join.
Verrill and Charlene are Christians, and our faith shapes how we view marriage.
We believe marriage is a covenant, not merely a contract.
That’s why we take our wedding vows seriously, as a commitment to keep honouring, protecting and growing the relationship through life’s different seasons.
Our coaching is practical and welcomes people of any religious background.
There are no religious requirements for joining.
THE WAY BACK STARTS HERE
What if 2027 is the year you start feeling like a couple again?
A new year brings new plans and resolutions. You probably have goals for your work, your health, your children and the life you’re building.
But what about your marriage?
Not just what you want to accomplish together, but how you want to feel about being together.
Imagine a normal week in 2027. Work is still busy. The children still need you. There’s still a household to run.
But now you’re laughing about silly things over dinner. Having conversations because you want to, not just because there’s something to organise.
And looking forward to spending time with the person you married.
You’re still building a life together, but you’re genuinely enjoying each other along the way.
Another year together doesn’t have to mean another year missing each other.
And you don’t have to keep waiting for your spouse to be ready before you begin.
Your first step is a free 30-minute Reconnection Strategy Call.
We’ll talk about what you’ve been missing in your marriage, what might be keeping you in the same place, and where you can begin making a difference.
If From Roommates to Us™ is a good fit, we’ll explain how the programme can help.
Simply complete a short application, then choose a time to speak with Verrill.