FOR THE SPOUSE WHO MISSES 'US'.
Stop feeling like roommates. Start feeling like a couple again.
An 8-week marriage coaching programme to bring back the fun, real conversations and closeness you’ve been missing.
Even if your spouse isn’t ready yet.
You still love the person you married. But life has become more about managing a household than enjoying each other.
And you don’t want the next decade to feel the same.
8 spots · November Cohort · 4 Nov-23 Dec
Wednesdays · 7:30-9 pm SGT
FOR THE SPOUSE WHO MISSES 'US'.
Stop feeling like roommates.
Start feeling like a couple again.
An 8-week marriage coaching programme to bring back the fun, real conversations and closeness you’ve been missing.
Even if your spouse isn’t ready yet.
You still love the person you married. But life has become more about managing a household than enjoying each other.
And you don’t want the next decade to feel the same.
8 spots · November Cohort · 4 Nov-23 Dec
Wednesdays · 7:30-9 pm SGT
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239 married Singaporeans surveyed
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WHEN LIFE TAKES OVER
Nothing is terribly wrong. You just don’t feel like “us” anymore.
Your marriage works, and from the outside, it probably looks perfectly fine. You still talk every day, although most of your conversations are about the children, work, bills and everything that needs to get done.
And it’s not that you’ve stopped having good moments together.
Sometimes you go out for dinner, have a really good laugh and remember how much you enjoy each other’s company. For a while, things feel like they used to.
Then Monday comes around, the responsibilities take over, and you’re back to managing the household again.
You thought things might get easier once the children were older. But the sleepless nights became school schedules, tuition, work deadlines and family commitments. Somehow, there’s still so little time left for the two of you.
What makes it harder is that you know your spouse loves you. They’re a good person, and there’s so much about the life you’ve built that you’re grateful for.
But you miss the random conversations, the spontaneous affection and the feeling that your spouse genuinely enjoys being with you.
Sometimes, lying beside the person you married, you find yourself wondering when things became like this.
And there’s another question you don’t particularly want to think about.
Is this what the next ten years of our marriage are going to look like?
WHEN TRYING HARDER HASN'T BEEN ENOUGH
You've probably tried making things better. So why does the distance keep coming back?
Maybe you’ve tried talking about it, suggested spending more time together or planned a date night without the children.
And sometimes it helps. You have a lovely evening, reconnect for a while and feel hopeful that things might be getting better.
But before long, everyday life takes over again.
In our survey of 239 respondents, 170 selected honest conversations as something they’d already tried to improve their marriage, while 131 selected date nights or intentional couple time.
There’s nothing wrong with talking more or making time for each other. The problem is that those moments don’t always change what happens between you during the rest of the week.
The same misunderstandings, unspoken expectations and familiar disagreements can keep resurfacing. Meanwhile, the little things that help you feel close keep getting pushed aside because something else always seems more urgent.
So perhaps you’ve been telling yourself that things will get better when work settles down or when the children become more independent.
But you’ve probably been waiting for life to settle down for quite some time.
If time alone were enough, every couple who’d been married for 30 or 40 years should be closer than ever.
But we all know couples who’ve been married for decades and aren’t necessarily any closer than they were years ago.
You can spend another ten years together and still be missing the same things.
Why do we then keep ending up in the same place?
Sometimes it’s not that you haven’t tried hard enough. It’s that the same familiar patterns keep bringing you back to where you started.
You raise something because it matters to you. Your spouse feels criticised and becomes defensive. You explain yourself even more because you want to be understood, and eventually one of you withdraws.
The next time something similar happens, you both fall into the same familiar responses.
When the same patterns keep repeating, it’s difficult for the marriage to feel different.
A pattern involves two people, but it doesn’t always take two people to begin changing it.
THERE'S MORE YOU CAN DO THAN YOU THINK
You don't need both of you to be ready on the same day.
Perhaps you’ve thought about getting help before, but your spouse thinks everything is fine.
Or maybe they know something is missing too, but don’t feel ready to do anything about it.
And because most marriage programmes involve both spouses, you’ve probably assumed there isn’t much point unless you can convince yours to come along.
It’s an understandable place to end up. When you’ve tried talking about the same things and nothing seems to change, it’s easy to start believing that your spouse needs to change before anything can get better.
It takes two people to have a marriage, but it only takes one willing spouse to begin changing a repeating pattern.
Think back to the two cars approaching the merging lane.
When both drivers keep making the same moves, they keep ending up in the same situation.
But when one driver changes their move, the situation is no longer exactly the same.
Marriage patterns work much the same way.
When you change how you approach a conversation, respond to tension or make room to enjoy each other, you’re introducing something different into an interaction that has become familiar.
You cannot control how your spouse chooses to respond. But you’ve already changed your part of the pattern, and that creates an opportunity for something different to happen between you.
And here’s what matters.
As long as you believe your spouse has to change first, you’re left waiting for something you cannot control.
This doesn’t mean accepting all the blame or taking responsibility for the entire marriage.
It means recognising where you genuinely have influence and choosing to do something with it.
You don’t have to wait for your spouse to change before you can begin changing the pattern.
A PRACTICAL PATH BACK TO EACH OTHER
Eight weeks to start finding your way back to each other.
From Roommates to Us™ is a small-group marriage coaching programme with a personal starting point, eight weeks of guided coaching and support as you practise what you’re learning in everyday life.
Your private starting session
Before the programme begins, you’ll complete a short reflection called Remembering Us, followed by a private session with Verrill.
Together, we’ll explore what you miss about your marriage, what used to bring you closer, and what’s getting in the way today.
You’ll leave with a personalised 14-day reconnection plan so you know where to begin.
Your three milestones over eight weeks
Room To Breathe
Have more energy for each other, not just everything else.
We’ll help you find some breathing room amidst work, children and responsibilities, so your marriage doesn’t always have to settle for whatever time and energy you have left.
Have Real Conversations
Enjoy talking to each other again, even when there’s nothing to organise.
We’ll help you bring back the conversations you’ve been missing, while learning to approach difficult ones without getting caught in the same familiar arguments.
In This Together
Feel like husband and wife again, not just two people running a household.
We’ll help you build a stronger sense of partnership, clearer expectations and simple rituals that make spending time together enjoyable again.
The Three A’s of Reconnection
Throughout the programme, you’ll also practise Appreciation, Acknowledgement and Affection. These are simple ways to help each other feel noticed, valued and enjoyed again, without turning reconnection into another list of tasks.
Real support, not just lessons
You’ll have eight weekly 90-minute group coaching sessions, practical exercises, weekly check-ins, a midpoint review and support between sessions.
We’ll work with what’s actually happening in your marriage, and you’ll leave with a plan to keep building on what you’ve started.
After eight weeks, we don’t want you walking away with just more marriage advice. We want you to look back and recognise real moments that have begun to feel different, whether that’s an easier conversation, more laughter or simply enjoying each other again.
The goal isn’t just to learn about having a better marriage. It’s to begin experiencing one.
8 spots · November Cohort · 4 Nov-23 Dec
Wednesdays · 7:30-9 pm SGT
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From the people We've walked with
What can change when one spouse begins first
Names and identifying details have been changed to protect privacy.
Every marriage has its own story, and sometimes one spouse is ready to seek help long before the other.
Here are three people we’ve walked with who decided to begin with what they could change.
Marriage 01
WHEN SHE FELT LIKE SHE WAS DOING EVERYTHING
She was exhausted from managing so much at home, while her husband still seemed to have time for himself.
She needed things to change, but couldn’t make him change.
After she tried a different approach and spoke with her husband, he began taking on more at home and encouraging her to take time for herself.
"I have time off for myself, without planning what to do for the day.
I definitely feel so much better now."
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She had been carrying a great deal at home, and from where she stood, the problem seemed obvious.
What shifted wasn’t about convincing her that the imbalance didn’t matter or asking her to become more tolerant of it.
She became clearer about what she was carrying, what belonged to her, and what she could change in the way she was approaching the situation.
As she changed what she was doing, the conversations between them began to change too.
Marriage 02
WHEN HER HUSBAND WASN'T READY TO GET HELP
She had already moved out and was staying with her mother. Her husband never attended a coaching session.
But she decided to begin anyway.
Before our work together ended, she had moved back home.
"I came swimming in dark waters.
I left seeing that my marriage could be loved to the brim."
READ MORE
She and her husband had been clashing over ordinary, everyday decisions, and the way they spoke to each other had begun to leave both of them feeling small.
Through our work together, she began to understand that two people could approach things very differently without either person automatically being wrong.
She became clearer about what was hers to own, what wasn’t hers to carry, and what she could begin doing differently.
Her spouse never attended a session, but that didn’t prevent her from beginning.
Marriage 03
WHEN BEGINNING FIRST FELT UNFAIR
She was carrying deep hurt from past choices her husband had made, and what he had done was still his responsibility.
Taking the first step didn’t mean taking the blame.
As she began working through what she’d been carrying, she experienced a tremendous sense of relief. She felt free, and their relationship began feeling different too.
“It felt like it was a load off my heart.
Our relationship is now easier, happier, nicer and simpler.”
READ MORE
She had spent a long time trying to understand what had happened and why, while carrying hurt over choices that hadn’t been hers.
Our work wasn’t about excusing her husband’s actions, asking her to forget what happened or making her responsible for repairing everything.
It was about helping her work through what she was carrying, without having to take ownership of choices that weren’t hers.
She described feeling free from so much of the emotional weight she’d been carrying.
What her husband had done hadn’t changed, but her experience of herself and the marriage had.
These are three very different marriages, but each shows what can begin changing when one spouse decides to take the first step.
Your spouse may not be ready yet.
That doesn’t mean your marriage has to stay this way for the next ten years.
We've been there too
We spent almost every day together. And still found ourselves missing each other.
Charlene and I have never quite done things the usual way.
We became a couple on Saturday, looked at wedding rings on Sunday and got engaged on Monday. Girlfriend on Saturday, Fiance on Monday. I didn’t even get down on one knee, but Char said yes anyway. I think she saw great potential. 😎
We’ve also worked together since 2011. And when I say worked together, I mean going to work together, spending the whole day together and coming home together, only to do it all over again the next day.
Whenever people find out, we almost always get the same reaction.
“How do you guys do it? I cannot imagine working with my spouse.”
And I understand why.
Working together means you’re constantly navigating different opinions, making decisions, handling disagreements and dealing with pressures that most couples don’t have to bring into their marriage every single day.
But somehow, we made it work. More than that, we genuinely enjoyed being around each other.
Over the years, people came to know us as a couple who could work together, build together and still enjoy being married. From the outside, it probably looked like we’d figured out this whole partnership thing.
Then Judah arrived after ten years of waiting.
We were overjoyed to finally become parents, but that first year also brought a kind of change we hadn’t expected.
Suddenly, so much of our time and attention went towards caring for Judah, managing the household and keeping everything running.
We were still a team. We still loved each other. And we were still doing life together.
But for the first time, we began feeling like two capable people running the same life on separate tracks.
I remember telling Char, “I feel like I’ve lost my right hand.”
After all those years of spending practically every day together, I never imagined that I could still find myself missing my wife.
Charlene was carrying her own pressures too. We had waited so long to become parents, and now we were so busy caring for the life we’d prayed for that we had less room to enjoy each other.
And that taught us something important about marriage.
You can be incredibly good at doing life together and still lose the closeness that makes you feel like a couple.
We’d already spent years learning how to navigate our differences, handle disagreements and work as partners.
But becoming parents reminded us that a good partnership also needs friendship, affection, laughter and time to simply enjoy each other.
We didn’t need a different life or a different marriage.
We needed to find each other again inside the life we'd waited so long to build.
And that’s a big part of why we care so deeply about helping other couples find their way back to each other.
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BEYOND THE TWO OF YOU
Stronger marriages build stronger families. Stronger families raise stronger generations.
We care deeply about parenting. But for us, marriage comes before parenting.
Not because children matter less, but precisely because they matter so much.
Years ago, when we were still coaching singles and people preparing for marriage, we kept hearing versions of the same sentence:
“I don’t want the marriage that my parents have.”
They weren’t saying their parents were terrible people. Many had grown up in families where Dad and Mum were still together, working hard and doing their best for their children.
But they also remembered what they had watched growing up. The arguments that never seemed to get resolved, the affection that had disappeared, or two people who were still married but no longer seemed to enjoy each other.
And somewhere along the way, they had quietly decided that they wanted something different.
Our children aren’t only learning from how we parent them. They’re also learning from how we treat each other.
They notice how we speak when we disagree, whether we still laugh together, how we show affection, and what happens when one of us gets hurt.
Nobody needs to sit them down and explain what marriage looks like. They’re already watching.
Since becoming parents, this has become even more personal for us.
There will be many things in Judah’s life that will make us proud. His graduations, his achievements, the things he works hard for and the person he becomes.
And one day, watching him get married will surely be one of the happiest moments of our lives.
But as wonderful as that day will be, the wedding is just one day.
The marriage he builds is the life he’ll wake up to for years to come.
It will shape the home he lives in, the family he may one day raise, and so much of what his everyday life feels like.
And that’s why the marriage he’s growing up watching matters so much to us.
We can’t choose who he’ll marry or decide what kind of marriage he’ll have. But what he sees between us will be one of his earliest examples of what marriage looks like, what’s normal and what’s possible.
We don’t need Judah to grow up watching a perfect marriage. There’s no such thing.
But we want him to see two imperfect people who sometimes disagree, get tired and misunderstand each other, yet still know how to work through difficult seasons, keep choosing each other and genuinely enjoy being married.
One of the greatest legacies we can leave our children is a marriage that shows them what’s possible.
CHOOSE YOUR LEVEL OF SUPPORT
The same eight-week journey, with two ways to be supported.
Core
For the spouse who wants a personal starting point, the complete eight-week programme and coaching within a small, private group.-
A private starting session with Verrill
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Your personalised 14-day reconnection plan
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Eight weekly 90-minute group coaching sessions
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Practical exercises and weekly check-ins
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A midpoint review
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Weekday WhatsApp support between sessions
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Graduation & Your Protect the Marriage™ 30-day plan
Private Support
For the spouse who wants the complete programme, with more personal attention and private space to work through what's happening in their marriage.-
You’ll receive everything in Core, plus:
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Four private 1:1 sessions with Verrill
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7-day WhatsApp support between sessions
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Replies within 24 hours.
AN HONEST QUESTION
"S$2,000? For marriage?"
We understand why that can feel unusual.
Most of us already know how to spend money on the life around our marriage. There’s the wedding, the home, the children, insurance, holidays and everything else that comes with building a family.
Spending a couple of thousand dollars on a holiday doesn’t feel particularly unusual. But spending the same amount directly on your marriage does.
Perhaps that’s because, for most of us, the marriage itself has never really had a line item in the budget.
And when your marriage isn’t in crisis, it’s easy to convince yourself that you can figure things out on your own.
But you’ve probably been hoping things would get better for quite some time now.
What you’re investing in isn’t another collection of marriage advice. It’s eight weeks of personal guidance, real-life practice and support to help you change what’s been creating distance and begin enjoying each other again.
We spend so much building a life together. Surely the marriage we're building it around deserves some attention too.
Of course, S$2,000 is a significant investment, and there’s still one very reasonable question:
What if I give this my best and nothing actually changes?
That’s why we’ve put a guarantee behind the programme.
OUR COMMITMENT TO YOU
The First Shift Guarantee
If you genuinely give these eight weeks your best and nothing meaningfully changes, we'll refund what you paid.
We believe marriage coaching should lead to more than understanding why things are the way they are.
We want you to begin experiencing something different in your marriage, whether that’s a conversation that goes better, a familiar pattern you respond to differently, or more moments when you genuinely enjoy being together.
And we’re confident enough in this process to put our money behind it.
Here’s what we ask of you.
Attend all eight sessions, either live or by catching up on the recorded teaching. Complete your weekly check-ins, put what you’re learning into practice and give the programme an honest eight weeks.
We’ll also review your progress along the way, so we can make adjustments if something isn’t working.
If you’ve genuinely done all of that and still feel nothing meaningful has changed in how you experience or relate to your spouse, we’ll refund every dollar you’ve paid us.
No programme credits or substitute offers. You’ll get your money back.
We can’t promise how your spouse will respond, but we can stand behind the guidance and support we’re giving you.
You’re taking a chance on your marriage. We’re willing to take the financial risk with you.
BEFORE YOU APPLY
Frequently Asked Questions
1. My spouse thinks we’re fine or isn’t ready. Can I still begin?
Yes.
Two people can live in the same marriage and experience it differently.
One spouse might say, “We hardly argue.”
The other might think, “That’s because I stopped bringing it up.”
Your spouse does not have to experience the issue exactly the way you do before you can decide that you want support with it.
From Roommates to Us™ is designed so one willing spouse can begin.
Your spouse does not need to attend the programme or join your Marriage Clarity Call.
You do not need both of you to experience the issue the same way, or become ready on the same day, before you can begin.
2. If I’m the one joining, does that mean one of us is the problem?
No.
Getting support does not mean accepting all the blame. And it does not mean we are going to decide that your spouse is the problem either.
Sometimes there is something you need to own. Sometimes there is something your spouse genuinely needs to own. Sometimes the two of you are simply stuck around something that needs a shared decision.
A behaviour can be a problem without a person becoming “the problem.”
Our role is to help you get clearer about what is yours to change, what belongs to your spouse and what will eventually need both of you.
3. How can this help if my spouse doesn’t change?
You cannot control your spouse or guarantee their response.
But you are not powerless.
You can change how you raise something, what you ask for, how you respond when the conversation starts going off course, what you stop over-carrying and what you choose to do differently when the same issue appears again.
When one move changes, the interaction is no longer exactly the same.
Sometimes your spouse responds differently too. Sometimes the first change is simply that the same conversation no longer ends where it always does.
Some outcomes will still need both of you. But you do not need both of you to become ready on the same day before something can start moving.
4. My marriage is actually okay. Do we really need something like this?
A better question might be:
Is there something in your marriage that the two of you have been stuck on for longer than you want to be?
You can have a good marriage, love your spouse and still have something between you that needs resolving.
Maybe you still argue about it. Maybe you’ve stopped arguing because you’ve stopped bringing it up. Neither means it has actually been resolved.
It doesn’t have to be a huge problem before it becomes worth dealing with.
Marriage should not need to be on fire before it becomes worth caring for.
So if one issue came to mind while you were reading this page, our recommendation is simple:
Apply and see if this is the right place to finally start moving it.
5. How much time will this take outside the weekly sessions?
Most married adults we meet are already busy. We designed the programme with that in mind.
Outside the weekly live session, the main extra piece is a short written check-in you complete on your own each week.
The rest of the work happens in the conversations, decisions and moments that are already happening in your marriage. You’re practising what we work on when the real issue comes up, not adding hours of marriage homework to your week.
Most of the work happens inside your marriage, not on top of it.
So the question is less about finding spare time.
It is whether this issue matters enough to give it some attention now, before it becomes urgent enough to demand it.
6. What if we don’t fully resolve the issue in eight weeks?
You might surprise yourself and actually resolve it.
But sometimes, what has felt like one big issue for years turns out to be several smaller issues tangled together.
So you may not “solve parenting” or “solve money” in eight weeks. Instead, you begin separating what is actually inside the issue and resolving the concrete parts one by one.
By Week 8, you should be able to see what has been resolved, what has moved, what has become clearer and what still needs work.
The goal is that the issue is no longer sitting in exactly the same place it was when you started.
7. Do I have to share personal things in the group?
No.
This is a small, private cohort. Confidentiality is explicit, you can always choose to pass on sharing something.
You will not be required to disclose intimate details simply because you are in a group.
Your privacy matters to us, and we take care to protect the identity of everyone we work with.
We will not publicly identify you or share identifiable details without your separate, explicit permission.
8. What if I have to miss a session?
Life happens.
If you can’t attend live, you’ll receive the recorded teaching portion of that week’s session together with the session slides so you can stay current.
To protect everyone’s privacy, group coaching, personal sharing and participant discussion are not included in the replay.
The replay and slides will remain available to download for 7 days. There are no replacement or make-up sessions.
You also don’t need perfect attendance to remain eligible for the Less-Stuck Guarantee. You may miss up to two live sessions, provided you catch up with the teaching replay and complete that week’s check-in and practices.
9. Is this counselling or therapy, and who isn’t this programme for?
From Roommates to Us™ is marriage coaching, not counselling or therapy.
It is not designed for active abuse, coercive control, violence, current betrayal, addiction, acute mental-health risk or trauma requiring specialist care.
If what you’re dealing with needs a different kind of support, we’ll tell you clearly and point you towards something more appropriate.
10. Is this a Christian programme?
We are Christians, and our faith shapes how we understand marriage.
We believe marriage is a covenant, not merely a contract.
That’s why we take wedding vows seriously, not just as words spoken on one day, but as the beginning of an “us” worth honouring, protecting and stewarding well.
That belief sits underneath much of how we approach marriage: two different people can still learn to come back to the same side.
But you do not need to be Christian to join From Roommates to Us™.
We don’t assume everyone in the room shares our beliefs, and you won’t be required to pray, read Scripture or participate in faith practices as part of the programme.
You do not need to share our faith to participate.
THE WAY BACK STARTS HERE
What if the next year of your marriage felt different?
You already know what another year of simply getting through the weeks could look like. There will still be work, children, responsibilities and a hundred things that need doing.
But imagine having more conversations that aren’t just about the household. Laughing together over silly things again. Looking forward to spending time with the person you married.
Not because life has suddenly become easier, but because you’ve started making room for each other again.
And perhaps the biggest difference is knowing that you’re finally doing something about the marriage you’ve been missing, instead of hoping things will get better on their own.
You don’t have to keep waiting for your spouse to be ready before you begin.
Your first step is a free 30-minute Reconnection Strategy Call.
We’ll talk about what you miss about your marriage, what might be getting in the way, and what you’d love to start changing.
If we believe From Roommates to Us™ could help, we’ll explain how the programme works and whether it’s a good fit for you.
Simply complete a short application and choose a time for your conversation with Verrill.
Your spouse doesn’t need to attend, and there’s no payment or obligation to enrol.